Oh, Matrix can do it in general? Hmm…

Never heard of that, thanks…

The problem is that Matrix doesn’t allow you to opt out of video streams when you’re in a voice chat. And Revolt doesn’t even have video-streaming. Discord’s video-streaming is incredibly robust on average, though I, too, long for a competent, free competitor.

Right, make sure @ understands that “instances” = “websites.” The Lemmy discussion protocol is scattered across dozens of websites to avoid tyranny by any one of them, and they choose to federate with each other or not so that you’d only need an account on one to see content from the rest.