She could also talk like a normal person and reserve the ‘signals’ for silly shit that doesn’t matter where “Well, it’s a bit of a bummer he didn’t pick up on it but nothing needed.”
Dealt with that shit for years with my ex. Talk to me, or it doesn’t matter currently and not worth being mad about.
At work we say “Documentation, or it did not happen.”
At home, well the standards are loose, but anyone with poor or abuguous communication is going to be very disappointed with my eventual response. Typically, “Oh, I didn’t realize that’s what you wanted. Next time let me know and I’ll consider it.” No apologies from me for someone else’s poor/lazy communication choices.
If it’s important enough to cause an argument, then some non verbal nonsense was probably not the best way to make the point. Text, email, hand written note, spoken language…
I got a new co-worker once. He was a drummer. I try, but I can’t do rolls and have shitty symmetry. We’re going drinking after work, so on the way there I ask him “how do you get both hands to play the same speed? I keep fucking it up with one side” I think he gave a basic explanation, and we changed topic after a while.
Later on, at the pub, I realise he’s missing several fingers on his left hand.
I then want to die of embarrassment.
I had a colleague who had only one arm. I think it was amputated above the elbow. It took me 3 months to realize he has no arm. We were working together in the theater, he was an actor, and he was rolling my cigarettes all the time because I did a bad job myself. He rolled my cigarettes and I didn’t notice he had one arm.
One arm and still rolls better than two.
I had a coworker with no hands. I noticed right away. I did fail to notice he also had no feet for about a year though. I probably shouldn’t have blurted out “You have no feet?” Really loud when I finally did notice. He did a really good “Holy cow, where’s my feet go?!” though.
Tell her she’s an adult and she should use her words.
Maybe don’t phrase it quite like that unless you want to be single.
Nah. Face passive aggressive shit with face-to-face aggression. Escalate that shit. Either you stop acting like a child, or I can do too and blow everything out of proportions.
If your partner relies on passive aggressive physical expressions to communicate, being single is probably preferable.
If your partner has a flaw, throw their body in a ditch
I’m missing several fingers on one hand, and there have been a decent amount of people who didn’t notice for weeks or even a few months, even when interacting with me multiple days a week. It certainly never took 9 months, though; the max was about half of a semester in college.
I’m disabled and used to use rideshares a lot; I remember one time my ride pulled up, I nodded to the driver, got in the front passenger seat, and started a chat. I didn’t notice that he was missing an arm until he physically pointed it out to me, after talking about my visible disability. I laughed and apologized, feeling blind, and he assured me it was fine, apparently lots of people don’t notice. I am partially blind though, so at least I have a bit of an excuse :P
Hey, it’s me, the person who wouldn’t notice for months because that exact thing has happened. In my defense, she did often wear longer sleeves that made it easy to overlook until she handed me a pencil.
I knew a guy for years, then one day made a Michael Jackson comment about his one glove, and I was shocked when he took his hand off.
I knew he couldnt move his fingers but thought they were paralyzed or something, never suspected it was prosthetic.
I had a colleague missing a hand once, and it me more than 9 months notice, even though I saw them in the office each day…
