There is a guy at work 2 heads taller and more muscular than me I find very strange: he seems to enjoy to either ask or tell me what he thinks about me without any filters: He either asks intrusively if everything is OK, staring at me like it’s an interrogation or blurts out loud what he thinks about my face (you look angry). It’s always when I’m preparing to do my job (checking the computer, taking notes) or when I’m working (looking for files). I’m starting to feel intimidated. I don’t talk to him but he talks to me, I don’t want to talk to him to listen what he thinks about me. Can’t he see I’m working? Doesn’t he have things to do? Or anything better than blurt out what he thinks about me?
I’m also a man, but smaller than him and I keep my opinions to myself.
Is this mobbing? Would contacting HR be of any good? Any ideas to deal with this kind of person?
This has happened twice already in 3 weeks, so you decide if this is a pattern.
What do you say when he says you look angry? its a pretty normal thing to check in with someone when thry look visually frustrated or upset.
This probably varies a lot by culture. Unless I’m actively interacting with that person on something, if I see someone that is angry I leave them alone. I’m not going to stick my nose in their business unless they ask for me to. They could have just found out they are getting fired, maybe their water heater broke and they don’t have the money to fix it, or maybe his aging mother just insulted his wife. None of those are my business unless that person reaches out and makes it mine.
Its just checking in and giving them a chance to rant if they want. Its fine to respond dont wanna talk about it or I can’t talk about it here.
I would agree for close friends, but that doesn’t sound like the relationship OP has with this other person. There’s personal stuff you don’t share at work for very good reason.