There is a guy at work 2 heads taller and more muscular than me I find very strange: he seems to enjoy to either ask or tell me what he thinks about me without any filters: He either asks intrusively if everything is OK, staring at me like it’s an interrogation or blurts out loud what he thinks about my face (you look angry). It’s always when I’m preparing to do my job (checking the computer, taking notes) or when I’m working (looking for files). I’m starting to feel intimidated. I don’t talk to him but he talks to me, I don’t want to talk to him to listen what he thinks about me. Can’t he see I’m working? Doesn’t he have things to do? Or anything better than blurt out what he thinks about me?
I’m also a man, but smaller than him and I keep my opinions to myself.
Is this mobbing? Would contacting HR be of any good? Any ideas to deal with this kind of person?
This has happened twice already in 3 weeks, so you decide if this is a pattern.
Yeah people always like to jump to conclusions, but rarely does that end up being helpful.
The first thing we should always try to do is to communicate and/or get more information about a situation.
Legitimately this person might have no idea that they are making OP uncomfortable. They could just be really fucking awkward lol. It is absolutely worth politely trying to talk to them first.
If they react inappropriately, then you’ve gained more information and you will have to take additionals steps.
But don’t assume things.
With said conversation, it’s important to do it in a respectful manner. Try saying “I feel X when you Y. Would you please try not to do that around me?” Do not use blaming language. “I feel” is key.
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