when I was in high school I was very self conscious, hated myself, thought I was ugly. I ended up resigning myself and being completely unkempt, never getting haircuts, wearing pyjamas everywhere and ect. but one day in the hallway a girl standing in the corner called to get my attention and told me I had nice hair. I was so astonished that I even looked around and pointed to myself and asked “me?” and she said yep. that was the only time id ever received a compliment from another person until I was 22. and as a result these days my hair is by far the part of myself I take care of the most. it’s halfway down my torso in length because I still haven’t gotten it cut. often when my mind wanders, I wish I could tell her how much she helped me become more confident as a person because of that interaction.
Wow I had a very similar experience but for someone complimenting my cheekbones of all things.
It wasn’t necessarily the compliment that stuck in my head, but hearing someone appreciate something about me that i didn’t particularly care for was strangely formative for me, I think. And I feel the same way - I wish I could tell that person why that was important to me.
when I was in high school I was very self conscious, hated myself, thought I was ugly. I ended up resigning myself and being completely unkempt, never getting haircuts, wearing pyjamas everywhere and ect. but one day in the hallway a girl standing in the corner called to get my attention and told me I had nice hair. I was so astonished that I even looked around and pointed to myself and asked “me?” and she said yep. that was the only time id ever received a compliment from another person until I was 22. and as a result these days my hair is by far the part of myself I take care of the most. it’s halfway down my torso in length because I still haven’t gotten it cut. often when my mind wanders, I wish I could tell her how much she helped me become more confident as a person because of that interaction.
Wow I had a very similar experience but for someone complimenting my cheekbones of all things.
It wasn’t necessarily the compliment that stuck in my head, but hearing someone appreciate something about me that i didn’t particularly care for was strangely formative for me, I think. And I feel the same way - I wish I could tell that person why that was important to me.