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I’m a bit surprised by the fact some of the answers are skeptical or seek to censor a word used to describe reality.
Yes, men get raped as well, and it is good there is a space to talk about it. Seeking to silence that is denial of reality and for some cases, homophobic. Straight men get raped. Lgbt+ men get raped. If you can’t cope with that, it’s a sign it was never your case and it’s a good thing, but don’t you fucking try to silence the victims.
Over censorship is a growing problem in general. Words are being given too much power and weight.
People seem to slowly be losing their ability to tell the difference between a word used to harm and that same word used to discuss.
Whatever do you mean? Grape is a serious issue that often leads to folks unaliving themselves. Nonconsensual seggs is a big deal. Pdf files everywhere engage in nonconsensual seggs graping people all the time.
It’s a big deal.
/s
I hope it is obvious I am agreeing with you.
It took till about half way though for the sarcasm to get obvious. Lol thanks for the /s tho.
Yes you would have been fine with out it but it doesn’t hurt to have.
I think it’s mostly a reflex of uneasiness, but considering how hard it can be for a victim of sexual violence to come forth and whatever the gender or sexual orientation, it is simply inconcevable to refuse to hear their words. And yes, it’s icky, it’s a fucking hard topic to write or read about.
What I would advocate for is to (already done) display and pin informations toward helplines around the globe, and maybe soliciting the actual participation of these hotlines, if possible? Maybe some common education in how to receive and moderate communities with such difficult topics?
Exactly ! Happy to see someone support the initiative.