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Just go out. Go to bars, cafes, restaurants, movies, plays/concerts, etc and sometimes just hang out. Places also used to be open much later and they were much cheaper. I never got drunk.

I had many places I’d go out regularly. a lot of them closed and got replaces by much more expensive places that cater to a ultra snobby crowd I don’t want to be around.

rage is the primary currency of the internet these days. it’s what motivates people to interact, and repeatedly interact.

You ever notice how users who are irrationally angry with you will comment at you multiple times? yeah…

Mostly ignore people and go out into the woods in various ways.

Or read books.

I used to go out a lot but increasingly people IRL in my city are weird and hostile, like a lot of fediverse users, so it’s just nicer to stay home than go outside and be harassed by a weirdo with a complex. Prior to '22 nobody ever came up to me looking to start a fight ever, since middle school. But basically every other month someone tries to start a fight with me on the street or at a restaurant now, it’s insane. IME it feels like the insanity of online/social media rage/hostility is bleeding over into reality and people feel like they must tell random people they see IRL how much they hate them.

I don’t consider my self a paragon of moral virtue and intellectual genius based on my political opinions.

I also really enjoy my PS5 and my Switch 2. That’s not allowed here.

my zip code is in the top ten highest HCOL in the USA.

People here are very cartoonish yes. They are straight out of New Yorker with how absurdly self-absorbed they are. And they see nothing wrong with it because they grew up that way. Lots of old money types. I have endless stories, like another date I went on a few months ago where a woman whined to me she only made 2 million dollars on her stock last year and how could she possible ever retire in if she isn’t making like 5 million a year. she was 35. I told her I made $5000 in stock last year and ended the date instantly because she was so disgusted to be talking to a poor person.

No. I don’t need to heal. I’m healed.

I know I’m healed because instead of listening to people lecture me how damaged I am, I ignore them. Because that is what everyone in my life used to do, lecture me how damaged I am for not being like them and how ‘concerned’ they are for me. It’s manipulation to setup a power dynamic where they are ‘normal’ and you are ‘faulty’ so later on they can convince you to do what they want.

Just like the lady last winter I tried to date who lectured me I am mentally ill and need therapy if I am happy driving a basic car, because a ‘well-adjusted person has ambition and self respect and would want to drive a $100,000 car.’ She drove a $70K car. She genuinely thought I was mentally ill. I genuinely thought she was a stupid idiot and I lost all respect/desire for her when she voiced her ‘concern’ for me.

I’d love to meet someone someday who thinks it’s OK to be happy with driving a basic car, but I have literally never met such a person in my life. They might exist out there somewhere but I have never met them. Most folks I meet, sadly, just want to lecture me on how I need to have a more expensive one or how ‘disappointed’ they in me for driving such a ‘cheap car’ and how I have ‘no self respect’ if I do so. They also tell me how I have ‘no self respect’ because I don’t own $5,000 suit and shit like that.

Weird how that works.

Speak for yourself. When I’ve been sick my gf/family told me to go f myself and what an asshole I am for getting sick. Literally nobody is ever going to take care of me, and never has. When my dad was dying, my 5 year old girlfriend didn’t help, she broke up with me for ‘being a loser who is sad about his stupid dad’. Oh and then called me up asking me for money after we broke up. Most of my gfs/friends actively tried to sabotage the progress in my life and would argue against me doing the things that improved my life. Working out, not drinking, eating right, saving, investing, were all labeled ‘gay, stupid, weird, queer’.

At the end of my days, people add very little to my life, and having them in my life results in a net negative. Which is precisely why excluding them in my life has lead to massive gains in my health, happiness, and wealth. I can work out, eat right, and pursue my passions and grow my career skills without repeatedly being told how awful and shitty doing those things are, and what I should be doing with my life is sitting on my ass drinking booze, eating fast food, and watching shitty sitcoms every night.

You can lecture me all you want, but I’ve never had anyone in my life really add anything of value or given me any genuine support and the second I ask for help they tell me what a piece of shit I am and then start asking me for help. Anytime I called anyone up to try and share good news, like getting a $35,000 raise, buying a home, or adopting my pets, I was told how shitty I was and then asked for money by so called ‘friend’ or family member or other person who supposedly ‘cares’ about me and lecturing me what an asshole I am because they ‘deserve’ my money more than I do and I shouldn’t be able to have a home, or pets, or a car, or a great job.

Which is to say, without all that horrid negatively dragging me down from my supposed ‘support structure’ I am finally able to be happy and enjoy my life without being shamed, harassed, or threatened. I’m also allowed to be proud of my achievements in life, rather than being repeatedly told how horrible and undeserving I am for having achieved them.

For years I kept dating and being in relationships and putting a lot of effort into it. Also socializing and making friends too.

I gave up about 5 years ago and I’m much much happier with my life. It’s amazing how much better I feel on a daily basis when my energy and efforts aren’t going into a black hole from which no joy comes out. I also rapidly achieved a lot of life goals after 10+ years of achieving almost none of them.

Being mostly totally alone is completely awesome and I’m annoyed that other people convinced me it was terrible and awful.