I lost NNN and I regret it (every year I’m lying to myself by saying that I’ll do it this year, but hey, nothing I can do about it; tho the best thing that I can do for now is to survive till the end of the month with an imaginary HP left). Honestly, that’s only the tip of the iceberg when it comes down to the way masturbation addiction (won’t call it porn addiction, since the spectre of things that I was doing while ‘‘doing it’’ is substantially wider than that) has affected me. Won’t get into much detail, but it’s pretty bad. Gotta be honest with myself. Might be wrong, or right, but I feel like an important part of it is the fact that I’m still a virgin. I would love to hear anyone willing to share his thoughts with me. Your effort is much appreciated!
P.S. also, I’m posting this as a timestamp in my journey of battling this cheap butt addiction, literally
P.P.S. feel free to ask any questions
P.P.P.S. thanks for all the support, guys, you’re awesome
What does NNN and HP mean?
Health Points (videogame terminology) and No Nut November
That’s helpful. Thank you. I have a very similar issue that I’ve been dealing with for some time. Mine specifically relates to pornography but overall it’s called sex addiction. It’s been very bad for me too. I’d spend hours doing it and usually used drugs and/or alcohol as an “enhancer”. It’s had some devastating consequences including depression, attempted suicide and problems in my marriage. But I’ve found something that’s helped quite a bit called Smart Recovery. It’s a science and evidence based approach to addiction; any addiction, including drugs and alcohol. It’s much different than AA where they believe that no one can recover on their own without believing that god is the only one that can help and you have to give yourself over to “his will”. I don’t believe in god and find their approach bullshit. But I know it helps some people and that’s what really counts. It’s just not for me. Smart has daily meetings online and you’ll find occasional ones in person in your area if they’re available. Search for Smart Recovery meetings and you’ll find a page listing all the meetings they have for that day. You can filter different things like language, adults or family, and location (which obviously doesn’t matter online). They also have a workbook with their principals and exercises you can do. When you join an online meeting you don’t have to give your real name or be on camera or even say anything. You can use a fake name, not be on camera, and still ask questions. And some of the moderators are fantastic, some even with clinical backgrounds. You’re free to attend as many different meetings as you want to find a group that works for you. It’s all free, though the workbook costs about $14. You should try it out. I’ll be glad to answer any more questions if you have them. And one last thing, I’ve had plenty of great sex and yet still found the pull of this to be overwhelming. So keep in mind you can still have a hot partner willing to do anything and still suffer from this. Hope you have a good day. And another last thing, lol, is that this is a complicated issue where you obviously can’t abstain from jerking off and having sex. It allows you to engage with those things in a much more healthy way.
No biggie! Glad it brought something to the table for you. Also, thanks for the info, will definitely look into it.
P.S. Man I’ve got no doubt whatsoever that you’ll sort it out. If you ever need an opinion about it or simply want someone to be listened by, don’t hesitate to speak up. Never. Also, oftenly we get caught in all type of bs and forget how truly beautiful life is, meditation helps a lot in this sense too. Take care!
Masturbation is a healthy normal part of human existence and is to be celebrated.
NNN is at best a silly joke inspired by Seinfeld’s “master of my domain”. At my most generous, it can serve as a reminder of how great masturbation is because you never miss something as much as when you lose it.
At its worst, it is toxic manosphere incel poison.
Being a virgin means nothing. When you are ready and find a suitably ready partner it will happen. Nothing about you changes. You don’t become a man. Equally staying a virgin is fine too, you always have masturbation! No need to mourn the loss of an experience you weren’t ready for in the first place. It’s really not a big deal. We build it up like its some holy grail but when most people finally do have sex, their reactions leans toward relief for ticking off a checkbox and disapointment that it wasn’t more.
I agree 100% with you. But I must admit, I abuse it and it’s an actual problem. It has affected me mentally and physically (won’t get into much detail here, but I get pretty bad withdrawals after masturbating at times, more often than not I physically feel uncomfortable if I’m not touching myself, even if the activity that I’m doing is not sexually arousing in any way, I am tired everyday all the day etc). I don’t have a problem with the act itself, but with the addiction. It’s a problem that I’m willing to solve tho.
I have trouble understanding the term addiction here. Withdrawals? The terminology is being borrowed from drugs and I’m not sure how it fits. If you suspect there is a real issue, you need professional medical support from a doctor, psychiatrist or sexual health professional.
Sad jokes like NNN do not help and more often than not do real harm.
Addiction has nothing to do with withdrawals if you’re talking about something like, for example, the physical symptoms of getting off heroin, which I’ve been through. Addiction is a behavior you continue to engage in despite the real world harm it causes.
Ill tell you if I ever care to.
Start hormone replacement therapy.
HAHAHA MAN YOU’RE SO FUNNYYYYYYYYYYY
bro, you’re not, you’re silly at best, and not in a good way
Don’t. NNN is incel bullshit.
“incel” is not a movement or a commutity, its a life circumstance when one experiences celibacy involuntarily. You should stop using that as an insult
Wikipedia is biased, and in this case its straight up wrong. See their ‘circumcision’ article for example
Can you be more specific about which part you think is wrong?
‘incel’ is a life circumstance that has been existing for thousands of years, not an “internet subculture”. The closest thing to that is probably some internet forums
If you only want to use the word in the narrow literal sense, fine.
I don’t think that’s very useful. We don’t really need a special word for a virgin that can’t get laid. But we do need one that describes when people start blaming all women and form a misogynistic mindset around it. That’s how I choose to understand and use the term.
But we do need one that describes when people start blaming all women and form a misogynistic mindset around it. That’s how I choose to understand and use the term.
That’s like calling every criminal a n***er because of stereotypes associated with black people
Sure thing, bro. But at the same time, it seems to be a nice mental exercise, all of that internet stuff aside.
Well if it’s an exercise don’t tie it to a month. Just try not to do it and see how long you last and try to increase it over time.
I’m still not sure what the point would be or why you want to exercise that.
Fair point. The thing is that it has gotten pretty bad with time, and has affected me mentally just as much (low self-esteem, anxiety when going outside and a few others). All I want to do for now is get rid of the addiction itself, not the act. I can obviously allow myself to do it from time to time, as long as it’s healthy.
I mean if you even consider doing NNN it can’t be that bad? What do you think an addiction is? Are you late for your job because you can’t stop masturbating?
But if that’s not the case and you can go even just a few days without it and not doing it more than … well, let’s say 5 times a day (depending on age), it’s probably not an addiction.
